Monday Memo

Another week is stretched out before us. Now what? We are a full week into this new year on the calendar and if you're like me, you have a shiny new planner filled with potentials and possibilities.

Being an emotion coach by trade, I often wonder why goals, dreams and visions are rarely realized. After all, didn't someone once quip that cemeteries are the wealthier places in the world?

“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.”

-Les Brown

Why is it so many have visions of grandeur yet year after year, the hopes are left in the previous year when the ball drops.

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Before we all spiral into a pile of give up on this Monday morning, let's take a quick look and see if perhaps we can't shake it off and see our hopes, dreams, visions and more realized in 2024!

For this Monday Memo, my word to you is, consider this month- boundaries.

Personally, I am going to create a journal space with a detailed list of boundaries I will and will not cross.

As an emotion coach, I see people have all the tenacity and stamina to get the things accomplished, but people pushing into your boundaries and then the allowing of it, is the major source of derailing from goals and dreams.

Now, this looks wildly different for every single person who has had a dream drop with the NYE ball, but the idea is the same.

We all have mental boundaries for certain things, but there are those areas where we tend to grow weak. For me, it's always the perceived needs of my kids. Now, my kids are my #1 priority, yet, their need to constantly dialogue with me throughout the day is a now in place boundary that they have to be told is firmly in place. Now that I have children who are working, I turn the tables and ask, "what would your boss say if I came into your workspace and demanded to talk with you?" This has helped tremendously with creating firm boundaries with my crew at home

In business, many people message me throughout the day with questions and needs. I have learned over the years to answer only when I am "open" for business and questions and not when I am not busy. There is a marked difference. If you are your own boss, perhaps the need for sharp boundaries and business hours is in order.

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Again, the reasons boundaries are pushed are so varied, but the understanding that dreams and visions get derailed and delayed because strong boundaries are lacking, is so powerful. Once you are aware, you are now empowered to do something tangible to begin implementing what's needed to get your goals back on track.

If the idea of creating a strong and immovable boundary line causes you some trepidation, then consider joining us for our weekly emotion release. you could have some lingering negative emotions that are causing you to allowing your boundary lines being pushed. Each week, I walk anyone willing through a time of releasing negative emotions that chain us to the past and keep us from talking effortlessly into our future.

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For today, simply consider this question- are your boundary lines immovable, firm and rock solid, in every single area of my life?

If not, perhaps it's time to deal and heal.

Blessings on your Monday!